There are several different kinds of relationships.  Each has its own needs and reasons.

 

The first is the emotional kind.  This is when two people are of similar elements.  They often are friends of some sort.  They enjoy doing similar things and are of similar temperament.

 

The second kind is that of the physical.  In this case each person finds the others body attractive.  Quite often it very quickly enters sexual expression.

 

The third kind is that of lovers.  In this case they have elements of both of the other two types.  That is they find each other’s body pleases them physically.  They also find each others elements compliment rather then be of the same type.

 

Illustration.

                                    Lovers

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                        Physical ------------ Emotional

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                                                |

                                    Not friendly

This section deals more with couples and lovers.  That is the form of relationship that has the greatest potential for both harmony and disaster.

 

Opposites attract tends to be a common saying when dealing with couples.  What it means is can be shown in the elements.  That is those couples who have the greatest potential also are the furthest apart in each element.

 

The reason for this is that each person seeks a soul mate.  A soul mate is typically someone who has what you lack.  This can be shown when the elements are taken into consideration.  It is when two soul mates meet and their elemental strengths compliment each other that the two become stronger.

 

The strength of repulsion can be gauged directly in how closely the elemental strengths of each person are similar.  In this case the two people are more likely to be good friends instead of lovers.  That doesn’t mean they won’t attempt a physical relationship at some point.

 

Expectation states that each element treats every other as if it had similar properties.  Each element tends to require the other elements to already know and understand its needs. 

 

This is where strong friendships work best.  Each friend already has strengths in the elements that are similar so they tend to already know and understand what each others needs are.

 

Bonding is what occurs when you look beyond your own elemental needs.  It is what happens when you provide your partner with there elemental needs.

 

Illustration.

                                    Expectation

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                        Attraction ----------- Repulsion

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                                                |

                                    Bonding

Air is that of the mind.  It requires mental stimulation to be at its finest.  It likes to think, plot and solve.  As long as these are happening it is happy.  It tends to be independent and work alone quite well.  Distractions and interruptions tend to break the modes of concentration rather quickly.

 

Earth is that of the body.  It requires physical stimulation to be at its finest.  Quite often this means sex and quite a bit of it.  Anything that involves taste, smell and touch can work as good substitutes for sex.

 

Creation is that of going beyond the known things.  To stimulate this element seek new ideas, events and situations.

 

Time looks in two directions.  This element is stimulated when it has multiple choices upon which to choose from.

 

Water is that of the heart.  It requires things with feelings and emotion for stimulation.  Usually it’s best when those are from an external source.  Things that require this element to think beyond or outside of itself can also be pleasant.

 

Fire is the element of energy.  This element requires motion and doing things.  Plenty of physical activity will satisfy this element.

 

Distance is the element of one direction.  They like a set and easy path to follow the fewer the choices the better.

 

Destruction is the element of removal.  Quite often this element leaves a person feeling sorry for them selves.  This element thinks mostly of itself and its own needs.  To please this element it must come first as much as possible.